Understand that sometimes people say nasty things not out of spite, and stupidity.And this happens not only with teenagers, are not familiar with the rules of good taste, but also very mature people.And worst of all, you can expect unpleasant statements and from loved ones.Well, anyway you like them.Find the strength to forgive.As a response, use the phrase, psychologists called "I-messages".For example, "I'm so hurt to hear it," "So bad was the soul after your words," "I feel offended."If a person loves you too, but it is certainly true, he "hears" you and apologize.
In the case of close relatives or friends to defuse the situation, resort to self-irony.Say, for example: "I do not like boors.Why do I need competitors? "Or" Can you tell me any shit, anyway I know more! »
If muck man said that you do not really cute: a colleague or neighbor instaircase, do not show how much you hurt unpleasant words in his address.Seeing his prey wounded and annoyed - and achieves this offender.So do not give him or her the satisfaction, to maintain composure.No need to break out an angry tirade, and even more so in a literal sense to rush to the attack.
If you are clever and can quickly figure out how to be sarcastic response, use this quality in full force.At the same time, more easy than to be told your cue, the better.Take the example of a great woman who lived at the turn of XVIII-XIX centuries in France, - Madame de Stael.She once made a "Gift".Clumsy and foolish young dandy, who took place in the theater between her and another fine lady, decided to flatter them by saying: "I am between the mind and beauty!"."Not having neither the one nor the other," - smiling, added Madame de Stael.
If, however, you are one of those people who can not quickly figure out what I could answer, do not confused babble incoherently.Better to remember the universal phrase that will be useful in many situations, "saying stuff you told her about myself."